Well, it has been a few weeks of numerous doctor and hospital visits, tending to a very shaken and weak patient, agonizing decisions about future care and a few (ok, more than a few) frustrating moments, but my mother has made the decision to move into an assisted living facility starting on July 1st. Blessedly, they had a vacancy. All that needs to be done now is move her into the facility and then make all of the stuff that she doesn't need anymore "disappear".........
Funnily enough, I think in her heart she knew that she couldn't live on her own anymore. In fact, she didn't even want to live on her own anymore. It took a huge admission on her part to accept that at 89 she could enjoy her life much more if people were feeding her and cleaning for her!! Of course, I have always known that my life would be much better if people fed me and cleaned for me, but my mother is from a different (and probably more realistic) generation.
My mother has been an extremely active senior and I know that she will enjoy proving to everyone that she is the most active senior in her new accommodation. I know she will love being around people who will listen to her stories and jokes (as opposed to mean old me). The best part is that she already knew the facility (as it is basically just a half-block from her apartment) and she knows people that already live there and are very happy. She will be moving just a half-block from where she has lived for 25 years - she will still be able to walk to her senior centre (for bridge and line dancing and book club and movies and special events) and to her beloved lawn bowling club. She can continue to visit her favourite bank tellers to pay bills, shop at all the great stores located in her neighbourhood and be close to all her friends.
It is a miracle I tell you...........a miracle..........
In related news.........it will be a lot of work to move her and disappear her stuff.......So if you hear me whining you will know why.......
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Good luck with the changes that are coming up. Glad that you were able to find a facility close to your mother's apartment. Familiarity with surroundings will be a comfort to her and you.
I understand what you are going through and do no envy you.
Take time for your self during the next few weeks and months.
Nora
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